On Februry 25, 2015 Joseph C. Noto, a Bergen County collaborative divorce lawyer, attended a seminar conducted by Nancy Cameron, Esq, It was held by the New York Association of Collaborartive Professionals and The Collaborative Divorce Association of North Jersey. She discussed “Conflict Transformation”. Over 50 collaboratively trained professionals, which consisted of lawyers, mental health and financial people, showed up to listen to this exciting subject on Conflict Transformation. It was an interactive workshop designed specifically to help learn more about conflict as well as gain greater comfort with engaging constructively in conflict. Joseph C. Noto, through Nancy Cameron’s seminar on Conflict Tranformation, got a better understanding of what happens to him in conflict, and a better recognition of what happens to his clients,and how to guide his clients and himself through some of the most difficult moments in the collaborative process. Joseph C. Noto has an even better appreciation of how to create dialogue with his clients to assist them in moving from reactions of blame and defensiveness to a dialogue about their most important needs and interest.