Joseph C. Noto, a Bergen County collaborative divorce lawyer and Board member of the Collaborative Divorce Association of North Jersey, (“CDANJ”), said he attended the CDANJ annual retreat where Victoria Smith. ESQ, did a presentation on Exploring Collaborative Advocacy. She showed among other things how you can determine where your colleage or other team members are on the Spectrum of Advocacy when doing a collaborative case. Are they facilative or partisan or somewhere in between? This matters to everyone in the case so that you know how to deal with an issue that may arise. The partisan approach is “all about the law” and facilitaive is “let the clients work out the solution and you help them to so, notwithstanding the law” . She also showed how the brain is so wired that you now know why a peron would turn down a reasonable offer. This applies to every day life as well. All about the frontal lobe cortex and the Amygdala, the integrative center for emotions, emotional behavior and motivation. Joseph Noto said it was a well worthwhile retreat to attend